Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness

I’ve read in a lot of books and heard a lot of spiritual teachers and life coaches say that ‘forgiveness can release you from the past’, and my initial thoughts were; ‘well that’s all well and good if you’re able to forgive people/situations with ease, you are so much better than I am because I could never forgive this person/situation, it simply hurt me too much to forgive.’ So I would just continue on in my life and hope for the best that life was willing to offer me.

Then about a week and a half ago my inner Goddess woke up and was ready to kick butt! My inner Goddess listened to that lame excuse (because that’s what it is – a lame excuse) and this time she answered back!

“Do you know something Aurora? We DESERVE the best in life and we are going to CHOOSE exactly what we are going to have in life. We are going to stop crying, we are going to find a way through this because there IS a positive way through this situation because I darn well say there is. You are a good person, and this situation is a wakeup call, it’s nothing more than just an alarm to say ‘hey it’s time to LIVE happily ever after’. You can forgive this situation, you can release it with love, and you can forgive the other person in this situation, and you CAN forgive YOURSELF.”

And immediately I knew she was right. I began telling myself, ‘I deserve the best in life and I choose what that is’, ‘I forgive you ….. for ……..and I love you’, ‘I forgive you Aurora for feeling …….. and allowing yourself to perceive this situation as …….. I love you Aurora just as you are.’ 

It took a while before my new thoughts actually settled within me enough for me to actually believe. But my inner Goddess was feeding me strength, she was there standing next to me, like Super Woman with her hands on her hips, confidently posing next to the weak, limp and lifeless me. Slowly I began to look up and get on my feet until today I stand next to that inner Goddess matching her confidence and pose.

Now, it wasn’t easy, but I believed with all my heart and soul that I could change my situation, I believed that I was at least going to try and as much energy as I fuelled into this, the more rewarding it was going to be. A few days in, I realised that I’d told myself and the universe so much that ‘I forgive’ that I actually DID forgive the situation and all people involved so much so that when I was faced with a new situation where I could have been bitter and twisted, I was radiating confidence, and pure love and the thought of the previous situation didn’t even enter my mind. It didn’t have a chance to enter my mind; my bodyguards wouldn’t allow it to enter my mind. I’d worked too hard to make a bad situation good that when I was then experiencing life, I was simply in the moment enjoying the truth of the situation – Pure Divine Love.

Life is made up of LOVE. Love of people, love of jobs/careers, love of food, love of places, love of objects – it’s all based on Love. But how many of us really love who we are and our life? I’d really love to say that we ALL love ourselves and our lives, but sadly for many that’s not the case and the reason behind it all is that we simply don’t believe we deserve to be happy. Refer to my opening paragraph to this post, re-read my self-limiting belief thought. That was said from my mean ego, not my pure higher self. That’s what your ego does; it puts you down, makes EVERY situation seem like the end of the world.  And unless we wake up like I fortunately did this time, we carry on listening to that ego voice.

I grew up a lot over the past week, a heck of a lot because I decided that for once in my life, I wasn’t going to run and hide and spend time crying and indulging in lots of self pity. I decided to say “NO! – I accept that this has happened, but I refuse to see it from a place of lack of love. I am going to look at this situation, at myself, at the other person, at my feelings with pure divine love and I’m going to turn this all around.” And I have.

I used my spirituality to get me through, I practised elements from Kabbalah that has proved effective to me in the past, I called upon Angels, Archangels, even Mother Mary to help me. I combined all this heavenly help and assistance with my new thoughts of happiness and success.

Now I’m sat here writing this, truly knowing, understanding and feeling the true power of forgiveness and the immense healing it provides. I can say with confidence that;

Forgiveness can release you from the past and propel you into a magnificent future. Forgiveness is the Key to happiness.

Forgive yourself for allowing yourself to be in the situation that you’re in. Forgive yourself for the feelings you’re having. Forgive yourself for believing that you have to be unhappy and miserable. Then tell yourself that everything is going to be OK, and that you deserve the best in life. Tell yourself and believe with all your heart that you can chose your life experiences and have total control how you perceive life and channel your feelings and emotions. You have the power within you. You have the key to a magickal life. You simply have to lift it to the door and turn it in the lock, push the door open and take a deep breath – be brave, be happy, and walk through the door of forgiveness. What lies behind that door is life transforming happiness.  

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Cleansing Oracle Cards & Developing my Coaching Energies

Hi all,

Well there really hasn't been an update on here since we took part in the wonderfully popular Blog Tour that we played host to that featured the wonderful Doreen Virtue Ph.D.

Since then, as a spiritual counselor and Self-Taught Life Coach, I have been working behind the scenes on developing new ideas, new blog tutorials to follow on from the successful "Words of Love" series I ran a few weeks back, and also spending time connecting with all my oracle cards.

I have quite a large collection of Oracle Cards and this weekend, starting today, I am taking the time to cleanse, empower and energize all of them. I'll be using White Sage to remove any negativity or energies of "lack" from them, then I'll be placing each deck in my Singing Bowl to really cleanse and energize them. Lastly, I'll bless them with a prayer, and ask my guides, Angels, Faeries and all spiritual beings to infuse them with accuracy, love and positivity. Then each deck is placed on my special oracle shelf with crystals surrounding them to keep their energies high. I don't like to cover them up by wrapping them in a cloth (Although MANY, MANY people do - and everyone has to find their way of doing things) as I like to think that the blessings and energies coming from them are free to travel and roam around my homes auric field.

Also, I do have an update with regards to my Life-Coaching/Spiritual Counselling role. Next FEBRUARY (2013) I will be beginning two new exciting modules at University as part of my degree. They will be covering Counselling and it's role in dealing and coping with depression and bereavement, thus exploring fear and sadness in our lives, and they will also be covering, the biological aspect of psychology. This side to psychology will be delving a little deeper into what happens when people are diagnosed with a Mental Health illness such as schizophrenia. Although they are "sad" topics, they are also topics that interest me a great deal as at the end of the study of them, I will have a deeper academic understanding of some of the topics I deal with when working with clients, especially when helping those who are coping with a bereavement.

I have found that as my own romantic relationship has strengthened and deepened through my work with gratitude and Living a Life of Blessings, I have become a stronger, happier and healthier person. It's this level of positivity that motivates me to continue with my planning of exciting Blog Tutorials featuring my Spiritual Soul Life Coaching for you all to learn from, be inspired by, and live your life with greater blessings.



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Words of Love ~ Part Three

Welcome to the final part in the "Words of Love Series" by Aurora Brierley.

Hopefully by now you have learnt how to stand up to your EGO and simply acknowledge it's presence, but you will hopefully also have learnt how to quieten it's voice internally. By doing this you should have found more opportunities to speak more loving to yourself, within yourself and about yourself.


Stick with this and I promise that with practice you will see a positive change within your own life.


Now that you are feeling much more in control of your life and feeling happier, thinking happy thoughts and starting to enjoy life, you may have noticed areas in your life that simply don't make you happy. This might mean that you've realised your job doesn't make you happy, or your relationship is no longer full of passion, or perhaps you really do think your whole style needs a make-over. This generally does happen as we create a shattering of illusions, where everything we have ever known begins to fall apart.

Many of us immediately and perhaps subconsciously react to this shattering of our illusions by trying to hysterically hold onto everything around us and panic about what we are losing. I've done this in the past myself. But over time, I've learnt to truly take a risk, let go of my EGO's need to control everything and Let God guide me. It wasn't easy to begin with, but now whenever I find my life shattering illusions, I actually look forward to them. Before you think I am *crazy*, let me explain.

When I look forward to these shattering of illusions, it means many things to me, one of them being that I am changing. I can either embrace this change or kick, stamp and scream my way through this part of my life path like a petulant toddler or I can be the grown up spiritual peaceful warrior (not WORRIER) that the God Force intended me to be and see WHY my illusions need to be shattered.

There is always a reason for everything that happens in your life! 


Nothing happens for no reason, we attract to us what we need, what we want and what we desire in order to grow and be happier people. When a situation shows up and it's crappy, instead of thinking, "Hang on, I don't want this, give me back my romance, give me back my £100s of pounds, give me back my clothes/shoes/friends/books/ etc" and then go around trying to cling on to them for dear life. It doesn't work. Not in a consistently or continuous way that will benefit you at all.

Instead, you  should say to yourself, "OK it appears to me that ......(fill in the blank)..... is happening right now in my life. That is OK, because for this to happen, it means that I am ready to change and improve my life. Now this illusion is being shattered, there will be room for....(peace/love/joy/happiness/fresh exciting work opportunities/opportunities to talk about my feelings with my loved one/friends).

You begin your self talk with the three words "Appears to be", this is specifically the chosen words I set out for you because it immediately doesn't try to tell yourself something that is untrue. It doesn't say that the situation IS or ISN'T happening, it simply states that it APPEARS TO be happening. Which is what is happening in truth. We each see situations differently and that is down to a psychological perceptions that tie in with the schemas (groups of memories of likeness) that we have been using, and adding to over our whole entire life.

In order to change your circumstance, you first need to change your perception of it

Changing the way your perception of the situation that is causing the stripping of your illusions is the key to becoming more peaceful with yourself, happier and more able to love yourself as you are. When you follow the above guidance of choosing how to IN-teract with your circumstance rather than RE -act to it, you take your EGO out of the situation and approach it with Love.


When you chose to IN-teract with a situation, you chose to examine from within, and when you examine from within, you examine with Love.

I have worked with this method myself over lots of situations, some that have included a shattering of friendship illusions, career illusions, body image illusions, and more. In each instance, the first time you use *The Self Love Method* (as discussed in it's entirety over the 3 consecutive blog posts), it feels as though you are actively taking control of your life. For me it took a few uses, perhaps a weeks worth (if done every day) of using this method, to actually re-train my own brain, to INteract with the illusions as they are shattered, to actually think, "This is OK, It's happening because I am ready for something better to occur in my life experience".

Now, although I am finding at the moment that any seemingly negative situation can be rectified with my *Self Love Method*, I have to admit that I do tend to get excited when I realise that this situation is a shattering of illusions. Before I would have perhaps cried and had a complete melt-down, but now, these situations have no hold over me at all. They don't even really so much as GRAB my attention like they used to. They are now nothing more than a mere observation whereby I say, "Oh, you're an illusion and you are being shattered!! You are being shattered from my life because It's time for me to become even happier, even healthier, even more in control of my own destiny! BRING IT ON!!!" And that statement comes from my heart and not my EGO, so there is no selfishness, no jealousy, no cockiness in the tone in which that Self Talk comes from.

When you reach this stage, and you will, - You will have mastered a magnificent way to use Words of Love within yourself, about yourself, and to yourself.

The key to remember whilst you practice this method (and you can print out the three blog posts, write down the main key points, copy selected sentences from the blog post into your journal etc to remind you), is that "Nothing in your life that comes across as negative is worthy of dripping and oozing from you and all over you, ruining your life. The only way you deserve to be dripping and oozing is with Self Love, which is the Love of the God Force"

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Words of Love ~ Part Two

Following on from my last blog post about how important it is to speak only words of love to ourselves, about ourselves and within ourselves, I am going to discuss a little more from a spiritual perspective and a psychological perspective on how looking for and recognizing the positives greatly affect our lives.

Three years ago I began studying a short course at University about the basics of psychology. I came alive studying that specific module and found that I became more and more fascinated with how our mind works and how our thinking, and our perceptions affect our lives. I learnt a lot about how our memory works and how we come to recognize things and sort them mentally into groups. I won't go too deeply into this as this will be a whole other blog tutorial at a later date. But how we use our memory and our perceptions is what shapes our thoughts and feelings about things, people, situations thus impacting upon our lives.

I learnt so much about how we CAN re-train our brain this re-programming our negative mindsets so that we become much happier and healthier human beings. Richard Davidson et al (2002) ran research studies that showed the difference between happy and unhappy brains and how it linked to our levels of happiness. By having a happy brain, by thinking positive and loving thoughts about ourselves and to ourselves we can increase our levels of happiness in life. Richard Davidson used a EEG machine (Electroencephalograph) to measure which parts of our brains are active with happy thoughts, and which parts are active when we think negatively. He found that when we tend to think more happy thoughts and are feeling happy we have more activity in the front left side of our brain, and when we are feeling more negative and thinking unhappy thoughts, the front right side of our brain is active.

Other ways in which we can encourage a growth in our happiness levels is by practicing the art of meditation. Richard Davidson teamed up with Jon Kabat-Zinn in 2003 to research the effects of meditation on the front left and right sides of the brain. It's interesting to note that Dr Kabat-Zinn had already found a link between meditation and patients who had chronic health diseases were able to manage and cope much easier with their symptoms. During their studies they found that the group of people who had received meditation training and practiced meditation built up a stronger immune system against the flu virus compared to those who had received no training at all.

These small insights to our happiness levels and levels of positivity in our lives suggest that we CAN train ourselves to be happier.

This is when I became more and more interested in Positive Psychology and even spoke with my own GP about Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT - Cognitive Psychology). When I was very unwell with the Swine Flu virus a couple of winters ago, my GP suggested that I use CBT methods to train my own mind into being much calmer and happier. I combined this with my already existing knowledge of Positive Thought practice and Kabbalah. It wasn't easy to begin with, I had been programmed to be very panic stricken, negative and worried, so it took a lot of determination and perseverance, but I am pleased to say that it did indeed pay off and I am still reaping the benefits from my training, research, GP advice and study. Before, I would find myself quite easily getting wound up, upset, angry, and very feeling despair over my situations with things, or people. Now, with my daily practice of the above mentioned, I am free of those negative feelings and thoughts at about 75% as I ensure I talk only words of Love to myself and about myself. I still have my moments, but thats all they are, Moments, not hours or days or weeks or even months anymore, just moments.

if you find yourself having these moments whilst you are training yourself to be more loving to yourself, it's OK. Don't beat yourself up about it. Do what I do, I tell myself, "Aurora, that's OK to feel like that, but if you were to feel the Love for all the good in your life, and within yourself, you will see that Love is everywhere and within everyone. Remember how caring you are, remember how loving you are, remember how helpful you are, remember how you smile, etc... Remember that God is everywhere and that includes inside of you."
I also find it very helpful to pray and ask in an affirmative way for guidance from the God energy, I ask for guidance and the patience, and the ability to see and feel the Love within myself for myself and others. In time that strength and inner power returns and I feel immediate peace knowing that I am consistently doing the best I can with the knowledge, love and understanding that I have. That inner peace for me comes from my daily recognition of practicing gratitude, prayer, Kabbalistic thoughts, Hinduism as I call upon the strength and support from the Gods and Goddesses, and the Oneness of Buddha.

I feel that to feel peace within myself, my personal key to this is to take aspects that fill me with love, peace and joy from all world religions. This is my way of finding the soul within, of respecting and honouring myself with love. You may have a different way, and that is perfect for you. The key to loving yourself is embracing YOUR individuality, your Souls calling, and to speak words of love by practicing what fills you with Love. Love of God, Love of the World, Love of the Self.


"The important message here is that while your brain is fundamental in directing your thoughts, and feelings and behavior, you can control your thoughts, feelings and behaviour and alter the way your brain operates to live a happier life" ~ (2007) 

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