Betrayal of the Sisterhood

Day 9: So here in the UK there is a huge media piece going on about putting men's 'trashy' magazines in protective sleeves so that children, and women don't have to see them .. if they don't wish to. At first, I was like probably so many women out there cheering the proposal on. Why should women and children and young boys for that matter be subjected to viewing half naked women on the covers of magazines, could this be the answer to men treating women with more respect and less like pieces of meat?

 Yesterday I was listening to a radio show that was debating this topic and they made some quite balanced points and now, I can see both sides to the argument.
Lads mags said something along these lines; "why should be have to screen our magazine covers from public view when women's glossies covers are lower for children to view on the shelves, and they are generally covers that bitch about women's bodies - isn't this against the sisterhood?"

And I was like... "Actually... you are so right there." I mean take just a few samples fo these women's magazines that I found on a quick google search...

 

Women, myself included buy these magazines weekly and look at the message they are sending out! Body battles --- there is nothing freakin' wrong with those gorgeous ladies bodies... sure they don't look like mannequins but NEWSFLASH... they are not supposed to, we're not supposed to! They are gorgeous, curvy and a positive role model to women to be happy with who they are.

 

Bad Skin Days ~ How utterly ridiculous! Everyone has bad skin days... EVERYONE!!!! I have them... you have them... why should these celebrities be pulled to pieces because they don't look airbrushed and happen to look real? yet we buy the magazines to read all about it.

 

Worst & Best Beach bodies ~ OMG! All those bodies look perfectly natural and gorgeous as they are! How can you say that one woman's body is better than another's? Does that make her any less good at her job? Does have cellulite free legs make her a better mom? Does wearing a more flattering bikini make her worthy of earning more money? Hell NO!

But sadly, we buy these magazines to read about how "normal" these women are... yet the text simply rips them to shreds about how much weight they've gained, how they are eating foods to cause break-outs, and how after having a baby, a woman is still to lose her baby weight... do we really need to fund these media moguls to be told that? Isn't that something we already know about?

 

Ugh! Shame on us ladies for buying these magazines and having them lying around our house sending us unconscious messages about our own identity and body image, and also to our children. Shame on ME for doing it! I totally betrayed the Sisterhood - something that I am trying to work hard against with my "Sexy Smart & Powerful Entrepreneuress coaching".

 

 

Another quote the lads mags said was that "at least our magazines promote women's bodies, we celebrate them and always advertise a positive message about women's bodies. We praise them, and show just how sexy and healthy women's curvy bodies are."

 

I have to hold my hands up there and say... maybe you do, maybe you don't... maybe some of your covers are sleezy and could be tidied up a little... but I guess you do send a more positive message out there about women's bodies than we women do ourselves... we are simply too bitchy for our own good.

Is there room for change here? Can we jiggle things around and come to a balanced agreement? Can we meet each other half way? What's your thoughts about this?

 

News and Plans for the Future

Hello everyone,

I thought it was about time that I update you on happenings within the Faerie Whisperers' Faerie Witch life. 

As you all are aware, I've had a very horrible and testing time in my life and my plan was and is to take back my power and fully control my life. Well, on Tuesday I had another counselling session which helped so much. I don't feel it immediately but a couple of days after the session I start to feel that anything is possible and I can and will be happy again. It's during those days that I feel like the old me in a way, yet I feel more like the NEW me. (See my picture above - that was/is me on a good day since it happened). 

My lists of "Things I like about myself" have improved dramatically with one entry the other day actually declaring that "I am beautiful". The photo above helped me realise that I am very good looking (She says with a pang of ouchy as she feels that's a little egotistical of herself). I've also been reading a book that I will be reviewing, and it's really got into my head and thus removed a great deal of the ex's voice out of my head. I've realised where I was going right many years ago in my life and where I went slightly wrong in more recent years. This is helping me to gradually grab my life by the horns and begin to steer it back in the direction that makes me truly happy, that allows me to live as my true self. 

So what's my plan? 

Well, right now everything is really still in the Inquiry stage, so I don't want to declare too much in case it all falls through and I back out, but let's just say that being a Primary Teacher really isn't where my heart lies, and it doesn't make me as happy as a career could do. 

I've been taking part in Lyn Thurman's Soul-Path Tribe, and it is so amazing! Actually having steps and following them is really helping me turn my life around. I highly recommend it! 

I know that by taking part in this and being honest with myself and those around me about what it is that I want in my life and from life, I can achieve my dreams of being a successful Life Coach, Writer, Author and Spiritual Teacher. 

Which now brings me nicely onto positive and happy news!! 

I am featured in November's issue of Soul & Spirit magazine. 

It tells the story of how I manifested Romance into my life through "Cosmic Ordering". What I've been saying to everyone is, that it's the METHOD of how I cosmically ordered the romance into my life, NOT who the person was (Obviously he wasn't "The One"), but it's a method that I know works, and will be the method I use again when I'm ready to find love and be in a relationship again. Unless the Universe brings me "The One" beforehand - in according with Divine Timing of course :) 

Also...... 

Next year (2013) I am so pleased to say that I will be writing TWO very new and exciting columns for The Faeries and Angels Magazine! Both very different, and very exciting so watch this space. Also, they have a special UNICORN edition coming up soon which I am featured in so keep a look out for that and I'll update you on here ASAP. 

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SO what I have learnt from the horrible mess in my life? 

1. Don't EVER let anyone have control over you, and your life. 

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Words of Love ~ Part One

How do you speak to yourself? What kinds of attitudal words do you use when speaking to yourself? Do you put yourself down? Do you perhaps belittle yourself? Do you when thinking about a goal you wish to achieve, tell yourself that "you can't do that. You don't have the brains/the enthusiasm/the time/the money....."?

We are  brought up by parents, teachers and other family members who teach us that in order to live a life of meaning we need to succeed and in order to succeed we need to be ambitious and in order to be ambitious we need to work hard and fight for what we want. Yes? Does that sound about right? Well you have basically been told, along with millions of others, along with... myself (by teachers not my parents in my personal case) that you really HAVE to listen to your EGO.

Your EGO hears the tiniest whisperer that you might just have to listen to it and guess what? It gets all excited and very domineering. Your EGO is a very very well trained Manager of your thoughts and feelings. I'll show you why and how in a minute. Your EGO is the equivalent to the boss that you really don't gel well with. Your EGO really does get ahead of itself and puts all these impossible restrictions and adds to your list of things to do, THINK, SAY and BELIEVE. Your EGO can be one nasty vindictive beast. If you agree, say it to yourself right now.

"My EGO is a nasty, vindictive and domineering horrible beast .... AND.... I refuse to listen to it from now on."

How does that feel? Do you feel energised and in control of your life? GOOD!

If not, don't despair, we can work on that. There is always hope for your future.

Your EGO has one main priority in your life - to take you further away from GOD, The Source,  The Infinite Mind & Spirit. The EGO will do whatever is necessary in order to achieve this goal. Your EGO will even stoop so low as to tell you any number of the following things;

• Your are stupid
• You will never amount to anything
• You aren't clever enough
• You don't have the money
• You will lose everything
• You can never achieve that
• You aren't lucky enough
• No body loves you
• You are ugly
• You're a horrible person

I really don't think we need to add anymore to the list, although your EGO would be here for eternity if it listed all the degrading comments it has for you.

In order to over-ride and remove your EGO from ruining your life, you need to bring more LOVE into your life and within yourself. You need to start speaking positively to yourself about yourself. It really is the only way. There is no use in trying to improve your life is you affirm one minute "I am happy, healthy and living my dream" if the second you say it, you hear our EGO in your head syaing "Yeah right, you'll never be happy, healthy or living your dream, you're too stupid, you haven't got the brains....etc". You can't simply turn your EGO off to begin with either... not at first. You need to retrain your mind first.

You can imagine a switch that says "EGO ON" and "EGO OFF", mentally visualise this switch being turned off. You can even imagine that a light goes out and leaves your EGO completely in the dark.

You can also begin noticing when your EGO is speaking and say "Thank you for your opinion". Then immediately dismiss the opinion of your EGO and replace it with "Actually, I think, that I can be happy, I feel happy about.....  in my life, and I think I am healthy because I haven't been ill for.... (weeks, months, days, hours,) and I think I can live my dreams because I deserve to".

You also need to remove the EGO's list of vocabulary and replace it with more postive affirmations.

• I am happy
• I am deserving of happiness
• I am beautiful
• I am helpful
• I am thoughtful
• I am supportive of others
• I am loving
• I acheived ....... at...... college/work/university/hobby club/etc
• I am lucky (You can give yourself examples of this too)
• I am LOVE

The words you speak affect your life.  It is so important that we learn to speak to ourselves with love.

(In Part Two I will be taking this further to help you with *Words of Love*)

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Prosperity Consciousness

When I say the words *prosperity consciousness* to you how do you feel? Do you tense up, do you raise your shoulders to your ears? Do you sit back and cross your arms? Perhaps even thinking the about the words and what they might mean to you makes you want to sit cross with your legs crossed, arms folded and think about the *LACK* in your life?

Well, if that sounds like you. STOP!!!

Prosperity Consciousness has more to do with your evaluation of your own self worth and willingness to allow good into your life than it ever will have to do with money or the things you can/can't afford.

Prosperity Consciousness also has a lot to do with honesty. Not the honesty that says, "Yes I did finish all the cereal" or "Yes, I did once fancy that boy in school". I like to think of those honest comments as *Fun Honesty*, as when you think about them much later on, they bring a smile to your face as you recall the moments.
I'm talking about the honesty that comes from your own voice within that speaks to your own inner being. The voice that says "I truly love you as you are", "I love the way that you look at me in the mirror, your eyes are beautiful", or "I deserve all the happiness in the world and I am open to receiving that which makes me happy".

So be honest with yourself right now, no one can hear your thoughts, no one can feel your feelings, it's YOU right now spending time with YOU. So are you really honest with yourself? Have a think for a few minutes.

How honest are you? Are there elements of honesty? Could you do a little better? Do you feel uncomfortable praising yourself? Do you feel uncomfortable thinking, wanting, wishing yourself the best in the world?

It's OK if you do, if you do it's good that you've recognized it, we can work on that. That can change. You CAN start loving yourself enough to want the best for yourself. You have already begun the transformation by admitting to yourself that you are a little hard on yourself.

The first thing you need to do now is take a piece of paper and a pen and write at the top "I am willing to allow myself to be kinder, more loving and supportive of myself". Then underneath write me at least 3 (but between 5 and 10 things would be ideal) things you LIKE, and LOVE about yourself. Then add 1 thing that you are / have / or done that you are proud of. At the bottom of the sheet of paper, write "I am willing to love myself and allow all good into my life".

The re-read through it all and at the beginning and the end where you have written the affirmations, read them either aloud or within you mind with feeling, conviction and a true desire to improve your life.

So why haven't I told you to write things to make you feel more prosperous or about money? Well in truth I have, because YOU are the most WORTHY and EXPENSIVE energy within your life and you are the INVESTOR in your life. Yes you! Every thought you have about the things, situations and people in your life brings more of that to you. Every feeling you have about the things, situations and people in your life brings more of that to you. Every Thought and feeling you have about YOURSELF brings more people, more things, more situations to match that Thought, Feeling and Self Worth Evaluation of yourself into your life.

So you see, begin with yourself, begin with the divine life force energy within yourself, and then the other areas in your life will become more prosperous. All areas of your life will begin to fill up with Prosperity Consciousness and you will live a more abundant and happy life.

Prosperity Consciousness is about the self invested thoughts, feelings, honesty and desire to achieve true happiness within which will then be reflected back to you within your life in ALL areas of your life.



***Keep an eye out for more information and updates on Aurora's Upcoming Book "Spiritual Banking" due to be published with Lulu Self Publishing that will guide you on how to live prosperously and spiritually.***

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